Let’s be honest—confidence after 40 can feel like a moving target.
We’ve been told to:
- Look a certain way
- Accomplish certain things
- Know everything before we dare to put ourselves out there
It’s exhausting. And it’s a lie.
Because confidence? It’s not something you earn. It’s something you decide.
It’s not about being perfect. Or prepared. It’s about trusting yourself—even if your voice shakes.
If you’ve been waiting until you “feel ready” to show up, speak up, or take that next step… this blog is for you.
What’s Really Holding You Back?
Have these thoughts ever popped into your head?
- “I’m not ready yet.”
- “I don’t have enough experience.”
- “What if I fail?”
You’re not alone. But let’s pause for a second.
Where did you learn that confidence comes from external permission?
Most of the confident women you admire? They didn’t wait for permission. They just got tired of waiting—and decided to move.
And you can too.
Step 1: Stop Waiting for the Perfect Moment
Here’s a truth that might sting a little: You’re never going to feel 100% ready.
That magical moment where everything lines up and you feel brave, brilliant, and bulletproof? It’s a myth.
Confidence is built through action—not before it.
- So apply for the job.
- Launch the business.
- Say yes to the thing that scares you (just a little).
- You don’t need a five-year plan. You just need your next bold step.
Step 2: Stop Apologizing for Taking Up Space
How often do you find yourself saying:
- “I’m sorry, but…”
- “This might sound silly, but…”
- “I don’t want to bother you…”
Let’s cut that out. Right now.
You don’t need to apologize for having a voice. Or taking up space. Or wanting more.
Confidence isn’t about being the loudest in the room. It’s about standing in your truth—unapologetically.
Step 3: Reframe Fear as Excitement
This one is a game-changer.
Fear and excitement feel almost identical in your body. The only thing that changes the experience?
The story you tell yourself.
Try this:
- “I’m nervous about this new opportunity.” → “I’m excited to see what happens.”
- “I don’t know if I can do this.” → “I’m ready to try and see what’s possible.”
It’s a subtle shift—but it can radically change how you show up.
Step 4: Surround Yourself with Expanders
You are the average of the people you spend the most time with. So let me ask:
👉 Are you surrounded by people who play small… or people who expand what’s possible for you?
Find your expanders.
- The ones who dream big.
- The ones who challenge you.
- The ones who remind you who the hell you are.
Confidence is contagious. So stay close to the energy that lifts you up.
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💜 Final Thoughts
Confidence isn’t reserved for the chosen few. It doesn’t come wrapped in a certification or a certain pant size. It’s not a destination.
It’s a decision.
So this week, take one bold action—even if it scares you.
Because you are not too old. You are not behind. You are not waiting for someone else to say “you’re ready.”
You decide. And that’s enough.
Let’s make this your most powerful chapter yet.
See you in the next edition!
Stay limitless,
Sally
🎧 Tune in to the Podcast: Limitless in Midlife
Want to go deeper? This week’s conversation is pulled straight from Episode 4 of my Limitless in Midlife podcast—and trust me, you’ll want to hear this one.
On the show, I’m keeping it real, raw, and radically empowering for women who are done playing small and ready to own their brilliance in midlife.
In Episode 4, we explore:
- Why confidence isn’t something you’re born with (and how to build it now)
- The subtle mindset shifts that change everything
Real talk on fear, failure, and finding your voice again
- How to take up space—without apology
🎙 Limitless in Midlife is your weekly dose of mindset, manifestation, and meaningful conversations for women who know this chapter can be their most powerful yet.
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Let’s rise together. This is your time.
Let’s make it LIMITLESS.
